Breaking up is hard to do and unless you live a secluded life in a cave, you’ve been through a break up. Some are easy to get over but others take time. Women and men need ways to get through the heartache.
Our perception can be fuzzy when we’re blindly in love. In some cases, one partner is in the dark as to the real reasons for the break up. Understanding more about the type of relationship you were in could help. There are plenty of relationship books available from Steve Harvey’s Think Like a Man to Willard F. Harley’s His Needs Her Needs: Building an Affair Proof Marriage. Reading about the vital needs of men and women and how to satisfy those needs can help you for the next relationship.
Go ahead and do it! No one should feel bad about a short-lived pity party. Let me repeat: it should be short-lived. It’s a natural reaction that can help you get past the emotions running rampant inside. But you cannot cry forever; it’s an unproductive way to live. You should also consider whether you’re crying for someone who would also cry for you if the tables were turned. Writer and scholar C.S. Lewis was quoted as saying, “Crying is all right in its own way while it lasts. But you have to stop sooner or later, and then you still have to decide what to do.”
Once the waterworks are over, you must reflect on how can u be a better you. Don’t do it just for the relationship, but because we can all stand to be better. What actions caused the disconnection between you and your partner? What will you do differently next time? What have you learned from your mistakes and the mistakes of your partner? Did you overlook obvious signs that you were headed for a split?
Focus on you
Many of us have a hobby we want to take up but never felt the time was there. Or maybe it’s a matter of going to the gym or getting involved with your church or community organizations. Even though things didn’t happen the way you would’ve chosen, now you have time available to take up an extracurricular activity. You never know, it may be a chance to meet someone new, and help take your mind off the break up!