We all have a niche or two, right? Well, hair has always been mine…
I started doing my own hair sometime around the tender age ten. Yes, ten. It was the best decision for our household as I did not like my mom doing my hair. Kids know so much, don’t they. I did my best to stay fresh. Especially my bangs. I always put a little water on them at night and wrapped a pink sponge roller on them so they’d be set for the morning! I could show you dozens of pictures with that doggone pink roller. 🙂
I would go to a beautician every 4-6 weeks, or when my mom had it to spare in the budget (usually for a touchup on the relaxer) but in between I was a kitchen beautician. I even colored my own hair for the first time around seventh grade. I’ve cut off several inches more times than I can count during high school and college, and I opted to do my big chop by myself so I could cry alone in the bathroom (2010). See this clip to see how short I cut it! Eeeeek!
So hair is my thing. I definitely don’t know all but I know what has – and hasn’t – worked for me. I know how to research that of which I need more knowledge.
Needless to say, having a daughter caused everyone to be like, “Oh I know her hair will be fly!” And it is; even after what I decided to do to it this weekend.
With the exception of bacon and ice cream, I am not a fan of unhealthy. Relationships. Lifestyles. Presidents. If it’s unhealthy, it’s gotta go!
Dead / split ends / rough and scraggly strands are no different.
Bailey was born with a full head of hair! The wives tales are true y’all. I had heartburn so bad I just knew I was dying. I’m not laughing. After her birth, I never felt that kind of pain again. As with most African American babies, her hair was silky and shiny for months and months after birth. It was super thick as well. I kept her routine simple, as I do now. I wash every 7-10 days and cowash once or twice in between.
Her texture threw me for a loop and I’d always tell my dearly departed cousin, Brittany, that if Bailey kept the texture which was similar to hers I was bringing Bailey to her home to raid her linen closet.
In the past few months, her hair has spiraled downhill with thinning sections and coarse ends. I use castor oil on the thinner sections and whether it’s the oil or not, I don’t know, but some sections have grown in thicker and in a texture unlike the longer sections. She and a balding section from ear to ear that I could mask at times with ponytails. But it eventually grew in and is now about an inch long. So I know her hair is capable of great things!
Black women notoriously have many textures. Mine is more coily at the top of my head and loose near the front, all in the 4a and 4b range (if using the well-known natural hair numbering system). Well Bailey has curls in the 3s. All the 3s. Each section has a different kind of curl. I think she retched back (use an Arkansas accent to say that phrase) to ancestors who came before her because she didn’t get this hair from either parent.
I’ve been paying attention to and taking great care with her hair. But things happen that are often beyond our control. Black baby hair often changes over the course of their first couple of years of life. Genetics just is what it is and regardless how moisturized and clean and low-manipulation I am with her hair, it just is what it is. The changes with her hair, in my opinion, fall into that category.
Her texture very well may change even more, but it’s going to do so with healthier ends attached. Many probably disagree with cutting a child’s hair but MANY don’t have to do it. *insert sweet smile*
Thin – but oh so cute and full of personality – ponytails be gone!
Her TWA is going to be just as adorable as it was when she was a newborn. Good hair is growing hair. If you or your child are holding on to hair that won’t let your head be great, consider making that change. Consult several stylists (as I did), pray (that you don’t cut too much), and then move on. It’s hair. It’ll be back soon.